So true, and in a way so sad. Our church in South Africa, had a focus on doing in the greater community and service, but we did not appeal to the younger generation and numbers dwindled for many reasons, emmigration and changing demographics, (South Afirica is a complex place), but the older generations didn't see their lack of appeal to younger folk, who drifted away either to other churches or out of the church, where they seem quite happy to live without religion. Then we had the Spong lecture and life changed a lot for me. I found there were others who had similar concerns that I had about "Christianity" and the regular church. What is/was/should be the purpose of a Church?
At this stage I too have drifted off (a bit further than most into a new country) and have no desire to join a church, yet... And my children who came with us, 21 and 23 now, have likewise drifted off. The younger was initially very focused on finding himself a church home here, he's also distanced himself, "the congregation was so old," he was one of the only young single person there...
I appreciate the framework that the church gave me during my childhood and my childrens upbringing, feel I should add to others, but somehow... A photo I took of Whitby Abbey in November, is probably how I feel at the moment. (Can't work out how to place a picture), it is my avatar at the moment.