This topic is of real interest to me because just yesterday I had one of those a-ha moments about it. I have struggled for some time with trying to find a way to deal with my distaste for fundamentalists. I want to be inclusive and accepting of all faiths but struggle to accept fundamentalist beliefs because they exclude and condemn. Anyway, I have improved in dealing with this over time, but yesterday I had a real a-ha about the whole thing.
I was thinking about how things must have been when Columbus set off to discover a passage to the Orient. Most of the people stayed in the 'Old World' and only a few went with Columbus. I'm sure there were many who stayed behind who thought Columbus was totally nuts, but I'm sure there were others who rather envied him and his crew.
What I also realized, though, is that both those who stayed behind and Columbus and his men had a necessary role to play in the development of our world. I was able to see the value of both the 'stay at homes' and the 'adventurers'. Then my mind went to the whole concept of conservative versus progressive religious values and that's when the a-ha happened. I realized that just as there was value in those who stayed in the 'Old World', so too there is value in those who stay in a conservative faith. That was a HUGE realization for me. I had to stop and really think about it. However, the more I thought about the analogy, the more I realized that it was true.
Being an explorer myself, I see far more value in those who are like Columbus, but just as I can not deny that those who stayed at home had a role to play, I can no longer deny that those who remain in their comfortable pew have some role as well.
This whole thing made me realize that we are all on a continuum, with those of us who are 'seekers' being spread along the left side of that continuum and those who are 'conservative' being spread along the right side of it. I also came to see that all are necessary. However, I know that even with this new understanding I will still struggle when I hear fundamentalists say that others are going to hell or that they (the fundamentalists) have the ONLY TRUTH. I will have to continue to develop compassion for them and will work to do that, but I know that this a-ha has helped me see things in a better light.
Hope these thoughts might be of some help.