Finding the right church is extremely important, I believe. I tried belonging to churches with which I was not compatible simply because of location. In every case (three), it was a mistake. I cannot find what I want in a church where I am being taught things that I find abhorrent.
Today on a church blog, I replied to a woman who was confused about how you know right and wrong when the Bible tells you so many things that seem unreasonable. I have no illusions about the Bible, as a whole, being the Word of God. I suggested to her to read the hymn "The King of Love My Shepherd Is." I said that I believe that is at the heart of Christianity and that that hymn is some of the Words of God. There is no "hate your neighbor", "kill your neighbor" or any of that. It is purely and simply about love. That is what church, religion and spirituality should be, I think.